The Case for Marrying Single Mothers

This wouldn’t land well with people opposed to this, but hear me out. My proposition is assuming we all know the downsides if you decide to commit to a lady with kids; the complexities of co-parenting, divided attention and love (towards your kids) in a mix of baby mama drama — so no lectures on that.

Most men would find a woman attractive, in mind and body, consider her fun to be with but immediately they learn about her ‘child status’ — they rule out the thought of building a family with her. In as much as there are a plethora of reasons for the lukewarmness, I believe marrying a single mother comes with its perks and need hearing too. 

First and foremost, she brings motherly experience to the table. In the turmoil of parenting, you don’t have to speculate on what to do when you start having kids together. For the most part, people who have kids (even those unplanned) have parenting proclivities, which is absolutely necessary in choosing a long-term partner.

Plus, you’re certain she can carry a pregnancy to term, a higher likelihood of fertility than someone who hasn’t — of course still not a guarantee — but a better indicator than any fertility tests a hospital could give you.

For the jealous ones, those with kids are in a lesser dating pool, many people wouldn’t want to pursue a relationship with a single mother because of the complexities of co-parenting and an ex-partner always in the picture. If after comprehensive audit and due diligence you find out she’s sane, why not pursue it?
Plus, single parents are remarkably caring. I know a couple of sane single moms whose naivety was taken advantage of when they were much younger. Should such people be thrown with the bath water? 

Marriage, in and of itself, is a complex legal and social contract. We embark on the journey hoping for the best. Every sane person should examine and have honest conversations with whom they intend to spend the rest of their lives with. For my part, best case scenario, I’ll want to marry a woman with no kids. If I happen to fall for someone with kids, I’ll look at the upsides.

My hypothesis, of course, is in no way advocating for; people stepping out at midnight with torches in search of single parents, like snail hunting. However, if it comes to that, there are definitely upsides to consider.